Loneliness is real and if you aren't prepared for it, Solo RVig can be a nightmare. In this video I answer questions about loneliness and companionship as a solo RVer:
Does it get lonely traveling in an RV alone?
How to find community and companionship?
Do I travel with anyone?
I talk about how to deal with loneliness if you want to - or already do - live in an RV and give resources for RV Groups (even singles RV Groups) you can check out to find community.
For more information about me and my RV Life you can visit: http://CarolynsRVLife.com
Being mean is bad Karma so be nice...
One can feel "lonely" even when there is another person in the same room. Exactly why I have finally filed for divorce after 35+ years from a man who was an excellent provider, kind, a man of integrity....many of the traits one looks for in a partner. However, he had no personality, passion, curiosity, etc. I've been watching lots of YouTube videos, looking at small trailers/RVs, and would like to start out by maintaining a home base (perhaps an apt. instead of a home) and just do short jaunts. I think my main concern about being by myself out there, would be if I had a mechanical problems and getting stuck.
I am fine being alone for long periods of time but do need some human contact even if just the grocery store cashier or trip to the Post Office... that can be just enough for me...I am great with people...just can't stand stupid people and they are becoming the majority these days...or I am becoming just a cranky old lady...:) I was always a great employee...great with the customers because I was old school...be nice and go above and beyond. But I couldn't handle the co employee drama and laziness and back stabbing. I've been self employeed for over 12 years now because of that. I can take my job on the road and love these videos...they are giving me the wisdom and courage I need to get my plan of escape together. Thank you Carolyn.
Wow.. This has been very undserstanable..Years I gave myslef. Just the kids and me we have Annie.. Now the kids older one left grad this year.. I will one day soon try to make this adventure a reality.. I'll tell you Annie in the profile has made it a little easier.. But when My daughter goes off to college I'm sure it will be too too quite.. I only know life alone with kids and dog.. Total loneliness would not be easy I don't think..great videos..
Your vibrancy and love for the outdoor life, are a real pleasure for all of us preparing for RV life and I'm sure all the free spirits already enjoying the O.T.R. adventures.
Don't feel alone.... We're with ya. ✌☺👍🚐
I appreciate and enjoy your channel immensely.
I have lived alone since 2000 and i love it so much freedom and hobby hours it is not bad. I do like people when i am feeling it to socialize but i like being by myself life is easy and drama free. I have a women sure i make visits when i want other than that i would change nothing.
Couldn’t agree more. A couple of quotes for reflections. “Stepping out of the busyness, stopping our endless pursuit of getting somewhere else, is perhaps the most beautiful offering we can make to our spirit.” – Tara Brach. "I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity.” Einstein
Carolyn you published this video a year ago. As a new subscriber I'm appreciating it now. I am, I guess, a loner and an introvert, however, I love people--all kinds of people and cultures. I thrive off of it. But, I also need my alone time. I need people in small doses. I have always been this way and have felt different or that I was letting people down, or worried that some would think me unfriendly. I was never entirely comfortable being alone because it is socially unacceptable. I was always comfortable with myself and at ease in my mind until someone made me feel uncomfortable by their comments to me. As I'm writing this I can't believe I let people get inside my head this way. I am at peace now and trust myself. I have concluded that I like me and I'm okay. I have in my life introverts and extroverts, need both regularly but in small doses. I need my dog 24/7. I needed my late husband and small children 24/7. I need my adult children and grandchildren just not 24/7. I live in both worlds. I'm not lonely except for my late husband. I enjoy being with people when I desired to be. Don't force it on me. Don't intrude into my personal life. Please give me some space to breath and to be me. Don't make me over. Then and only then can we be friends. :)
I'm kinda in the middle. I love my alone time, but it's 50/50. I love my peeps too, to a limited degree. They say if your comfortable being alone with yourself, I know I feel a comfortable balance with that. I just love life, I'm good with almost everything. Old hippy here, lol.
Yet again, you struck a chord with me. I've been divorced 12 years and very comfortable being alone. Looking back, I definitely spiralled down far more black holes when surrounded by people, noise and the constant demands on my time. The lifestyle that you're leading is so intriguing to me that I'm looking into ways of overcoming my own personal hurdles and truely living life. Thank you again for sticking with it and spreading the word. 🕊💌
Carolyn, as you always do, you've acknowledged a topic that's very relevant (to me), and covered it nicely! I also lean pretty heavily to the introverted side re my time & social gatherings in general. I can have a great time in groups, but the time alone is golden, and ripe with consequential thought. Also, nature is extremely good company. 😊
I grew up with 3 brothers and all their friends traipsing through the house. Lots of people & lots of noise. But I was a loaner from an early age. I was a wallflower watching what was going on at home except when they sucked me in with unpleasant events. Also, I had drunks in the family. Before my parent's divorce, my dad was a mean alcoholic. When my brothers reached their teens, they became drunks from then on. When we moved out, a gathering at mom's for Christmas broke out into fights. I always wanted to be alone. But I married at 18 anyway. It didn't last long & I stayed single a few years & remarried with 2 kids when I thought I was ready & that didn't last long. I've stayed alone since & I'm about to 63. I am happiest living alone. Always have been. That's why your videos are so helpful for me.
There's a group called Loner's on Wheels, too. You have to pay to join so I haven't done that yet. Another great video, Carolyn. Really impressive. I need to get out there to the mountains and deserts. The dry air and clear skies are calling me. Oh, yeah! There's another way to meet folks on the road. Join Boondocker's Welcome (costs money but worth every penny.) Check it out, those of you who are going from A to B.
Hi Carolyn, l came across you then l came across a woman that is alone in a rv. Please look her up she needs a strong woman like you please !!!!
Her. ' JeSsi G ' she needs a friend now. Thankyou Teri 🙏
Hi Carolyn, was just wondering how I can personally get ahold of you. I just watched this video and thought I was looking in the mirror. You song EXACTLY like myself and how I feel about being alone. People have always asked me how can I stand being alone and you pretty much just said exactly what I say to them. Anyway, was just trying to find out how I get a private message to you or if you'd like my information instead. Just have a few things I'd like to discuss with you without the whole world knowing. If you don't respond, I understand. Be safe out there.
What I don't get is, how do you pass the time of day all the way out there? Most RVers are at a camp site or at a beach, you're in woop woop. What do you do for 16 hours a day every day when you're not asleep?
How can you be alone.. When you have friends ..and.. a Therapist and join a community of people that want be alone?and you post a video on youtube with over 44 thousand views...?I don't think you wanna be alone..thumbs up?
You are very brave to travel alone. I think Jesus loves you and always be at you side to guide
you, so you are not lonely at all. Only the emptiness in your heart that needs to be fulfilled. Try to read the bible and say this magic prayer that i say it all day: "Papa Jesus, i trust in you"
and "My Jesus, i love you with all heart, teach me to love you more". Eventually, you will
the truth, not the empty landscapes.
Carolyn, I've noticed that sometimes an ad won't show up, even if the video is monetized. All of my videos (except the Mexico prescription drug one, b/c they said it's not advertiser friendly) are monetized. Thank you very much for asking and for your continued support. I appreciate you very much! <3
Enjoy learning from you and your experiences on the road. I read that for youtubers to receive revenue for their vids, one must subscribe, leave a comment, and make sure to NOT skip the commercials-you've got to let them play through...is this correct? I've been so moved by the RV and Vandweller vids that I've seen, and the willingness of these intrepid nomads to share and help their fellow travelers...I've been inspired by you all. I've never been on social media sites like facebook and twitter, just youtube. I've been binge watching you, Bob Wells, and DebraJoy. A whole new world has been opened up to me! I am so thankful to have found these sites. Please don't feel that you need to respond to my comments-I make comments when there's an ad before the vid, then make sure to let the ad run without skipping it, and also to make sure to watch the entire video to the end. (All this and, of course, subscribing). Hope this is the right process to ensure that you receive $ for my subscription!
I loved camping alone... I can go days without talking to anyone and am fine with that! I have friends and family I can go to when I want company... but always so happy to come home... just me and my kitty!
It's unusual to find solo women wanderers .it's usually a guy thing. I have a gold mining friend from Nevada who wanders from mine sites to ghost towns which I find interesting. I also mine and live in the hills. I've only found one gal that does what my friend does ,sort of like an old sourdough. I'll keep watching your video s and hope you do good.
Love being alone in quiet and nature - away from all people. Been living 'alone' for the past 12 years, maintaining my own home, etc ... always with 2 dogs and a cat though so it may be different once these last two animals are gone. I doubt it but think that finding an RV community would be important. So great info once again. I plan to spend some time in an area where I can join like minded people and where I can finally relax and heal after too much stress.
As an Empath, I prefer my solitude, yet I often feel lonely. I just can't tolerate other people except in small doses and not very often. I can endure the loneliness in return for not having to be overwhelmed by other people's thoughts and feelings. Either way, it is not easy. Yes, there are medications, but they just dull my affect so that I don't feel the unwanted emotions of others but I can't find joy either. I stay away from the medications.
I'm more alone being settled in one spot for yrs. with someone. I never felt alone when I'm on my own. I'm my own boss. I talk with people every where I go. I have never felt a need to search out community groups
Thank you for sharing on this important subject. I too, was married 13 years. I am single 21 years now and enjoy my singleness very much. I enjoy my friends but, for the most part, I enjoy my alone time. The RTR sounds like a wonderful event to attend & it sounds like RVers and van dwellers have a great sense of community. The list of groups is welcomed info. Thanks Carolyn!
I am a motovloger and normally watch and make YouTube motovlogs, but recently I have been interested in a RV. I started my research and came across the RV YouTube community and find all this so very fascinating. I even started watch all your videos from the very beginning. Thanks for responding to my last comment. Stay safe....
I'm the same type of person. A Social Introvert- I like people in small doses. People drain an introvert's emotional energy, while a Extrovert gets energized by people. Thats a big difference that once understood makes life a lot easier.
finding someone you have a mutual respect for no matter what gender they are is good for you, You will always have a good friend and I find the worst loneliness to me is feeling lonely in your own home with your family around you yet feeling very lonely, So in saying that it must have been a challenge to start with Carolyn but look where you are today and the experiences you have sometimes daily but you will never be alone again with all your new friends everywhere stay safe xx.....
Yeah, I could really see doing the RTR but that much traffic and noise I cant take for long. It would be great to meet and greet around the camp fire but just too much jazz for me to stick around for too long. Maybe I could find a distant spot to camp. BTW beautiful back yard your have there.
Some background on me. I was married for 16 years before my wife decided she wanted a divorce. My situation was that I got primary custody of our son so life was hectic but even before the divorce, I always had my "alone" time no matter how little it was. I do have a very close friend, but do not intend on getting married ever again and do live in my own home. We are all our own person.
hi Caroline I have always been a loner I live in Birmingham UK there's a lot of places where people can socialise here, I have never been a person to do that, I like my own company always have done, I am never lonely, to be honest I'm not very keen on people, people can hurt you I've been hurt in the past and it takes a long time for me to recover, I have always lived with a dog as a friend ever since I was a 8 year old boy (I have two dogs now) they are my company, you are much better off with Cappone I don't do things that other people do such as going to the pub, dancing, nightclubbing, cinema, I enjoy driving my 4X4 truck with my two dogs as passengers and they both love it to, yes Caroline I really do enjoy my own company..
I love your resilience and your channel (and subscribed via another account) ...and this video in particular...I left a bling bling banking career to care for my elder German Shepherd and took up gardening/orchard to keep busy during my homebound days. "who knew" I repeated a thousand times as I discovered how abundant, intelligent, loving, fierce and sexy Mother Nature is...and how abundant, intelligent, etc we ALL are...my "science project" in my backyard is becoming a sanctuary...and I wish you..."The Peace of Wild Things"....
"When despair grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting for their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free."
Hi Carolyn, thank you so much for so much courage and humility exposing or sharing your vulnerability, your loneliness, and your humanity (i.e. being "human") with the YT community. After losing a 30-year marriage to cancer and several shipmates to war, loneliness has been more fear than reality. You have given me hope that there are still some "good honest and genuine" people out there. Thank you for your words of encouragement, Happy Holidays, Ciao, L (Veteran)
You are very kind and sweet; your videos not only carry your "love" for the RV community but you are also setting a great example of kindness, altruism, and generosity towards fellow humans. You have spent many hours of research, notes, and work producing these informative videos; it is people like you who make a positive difference in this world. May Peace be with you Carolyn and thank you for your considerate comments, it means a lot to me, Ciao, L
lancelot - first, thank you for your service to our country! We appreciate the sacrifices you've made...
Secondly I am sorry you've experienced so much loss... I know loss.. :-(
Yes, the world is full of good people... I hope the new year finds you surrounded by many of them! - Best, C
If you cannot enjoy your own solitude, how can you enjoy the company of others! We all live in a world that really is a bit too much for us! The horror is the boxes or categories they want to put us in, doesn't really allow for our human potential!
Thanks! Your thoughts on loneliness are exactly how I feel. Since I'm a born comic and love people, my friends claim I'm in denial regarding my preference to be alone. I'm eventually moving to a remote part of AZ on the NM border and initially, I'll probably live in a 5th wheel or maybe an RV. Although I've never lived in an RV, I did live on my boat for three years - the New England winters were challenging! I loved the privacy and ability to move my home to great new locations, so I already know I can handle the small accommodations and inconveniences such as fetching water and doing laundry. Anyway, thanks for the great info and sharing. Once I get out to AZ I'll let you know; you can drop anchor on my land if you're in the area anytime!
Veprjack - i get you!! My therapist keeps reminding me that humans are social beings, every time I say I want to disappear into the woods alone. I've learned over the years, the secret is to guard myself and my life more carefully and only let in the people who deserve it instead of anyone who asks! That has helped me find a few wonderful people whom I love and trust - AND actually enjoy being with!! I hope the same is true for you. I appreciate your offer and will keep that in mind in my travels. Have a wonderful holiday - and stay tuned for my Christmas vid (tomorrow I hope) I have a feeling you'll like that too! :-) - C
I spend a lot of time on the road and in RVs since I transport, it can be lonely and I get depressed a lot and sometimes even suicide crosses through the mind but I try to keep a positive outlook on my long term goals and this is just a sacrifice I'm doing now to make life better in the long run
Social - no matter how bad things seem, I've found I always get through and somewhere down the-line something wonderful awaits and I'm glad you never cashed out or I'd have missed it. Good luck. Stay positive. the best is yet to come... Really.. have a great holiday - C
Thanks Carolyn. That was interesting. I think its a great life for people who are good at finding things they love doing and like their own company. Also people who look on life as a bit of an adventure. ^j^
I've had this idea long before I started finding the people and resources like your channel, saving up grabbing a class a rv after I absorb a lot of what I need to know and going nomad. I have a great dislike of society and I never fit in but the point is I love the solitude, my gf might come with when I do one day as I have quite a bit of time before things would be ready to hop out and do this. Always wanted to go away from society and so call retire from it, travelling and being out in the middle of nowhere has always attractive to me. Just feels like I'm destined for it, it's tugging me along I just need to work save and prepare for it is all. Seeing people living my idea is inspirational and bolsters my desire for it, living the life. :)
I never really thought about loneliness... and totally, yeah that could happen me.. but.. Man. I just really hate people haha.. Some have a fear of becoming that crazy hermit living in the woods.. Ever since I was little, I dreamed of being that hermit
It probably hits women much harder because they have all the attention in the world when they are young, then they are like everyone else when they are old. Men get used to loneliness before they leave high school.
It's a MUST to have your dog with you, they are the best friend ever! One thing I always do, is set out two chairs. .. if my dog Zibo doesn't end up in it, I'm sometimes surprised at who does. .. just a thought. .. another great vid... thanks!
I actually enjoy being alone, but only when and for how long I choose. Otherwise I wind up battling severe depression. luckily, I make friends very easily, so as long as there are other RVers around, I should be OK. Of course, I expect to spend almost all my time boondocking, so I'm not sure how that's going to work out.
Jim- I have found that there is a lot of community out here: People who , like us like to be alone - but not completely alone.. You can find friends to camp with or near and not see them for days! The friends I've met to travel with are as private and independent as I am,,,we float in and out of each-others' lives and come together from time to time for community.. It's really nice. I suspect you will find your tribe!!