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How To Avoid Embarrassing Yourself In An Argument - Jordan Peterson

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Tyrion Video on Frames: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NQiHtbpa8s& Previous JP video on earning respect: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsQLksbfDSo& Jordan Peterson VS Cathy Newman Debate https://goo.gl/jP3ZYs How To Shut Down Conversational Bullies Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Have you seen the Jordan Peterson and Cathy Newman debate? See for yourself how he deals with it and give us your opinion in the comments! We've all found ourselves in conversation and felt attacked like we started off talking about one thing and then the other person twisted our words and before we knew it, we lost our cool, lost respect in their eyes, and maybe even acted like a jerk. Now, I don't normally do the same person twice in a row but this interview between Cathy Newman and Jordan Peterson was just too interesting of an opportunity to discuss how you can handle someone who uses subtle conversational tricks to bully you into looking dumb. So in this video, you're gonna see firsthand some of the most common tricks that people might be using on you and you're also gonna learn how to reverse those so that you can walk out of a kind of aggressive situation having earned more respect than you had going in. So first off, to stop a conversational bully, you have to realize what's going on before it's too late. Now, typically, a person will reveal their aggressive attitude early on with their tone of voice and their word choice. Check out the rest that we will show in this video and how Jordan Peterson tackles them. 1:49 Jordan Peterson deals with so-you're-saying trap 2:39 Jordan Peterson deals with the "assuming the sale" 5:30 Jordan Peterson deals with the smash technique 7:08 But don't straw man the other person's ideas though 7:47 And visual imagery can also help 8:25 You can show them that they're already agreeing with you Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand Or if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Instagram: @IamBenAltman
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staffan144 (3 hours ago)
I wonder how 'journalists' learn to be so dishonest and manipulative, what books do they read, what do those books teach??
Master Z (9 hours ago)
Jordan Peterson is a straight up badass, he teaches you how to argue with people
Dendrobial Bright (11 hours ago)
He banged her out! Destroyed
Dendrobial Bright (11 hours ago)
JP is top shelf!
Danny (14 hours ago)
I Disagree with your last point. Jordan could go gently on her but then she wouldnt realise her bad behaviour. You dont reward anyone for being nasty.
Mark OK (17 hours ago)
As intersting and enlightening as this is...this is some f the worst kind od of crap people are so very capable of. Depressing...please , can we drop the play-acting and tactics and simply TALK?
Sheel G (20 hours ago)
She tries to win arguments by her generalization and her trap of repeatedly saying... "So what you're saying is!!"
Karim Nanji (21 hours ago)
Thank U
KyawZayYa Htun (21 hours ago)
Well actually eye contacts Gotcha
LeandroGamaUFF (22 hours ago)
Keth Newman is a Bullier .She was put in this position because of that skill. And the only way to stop the bullier is to make them fell silly about themselves. She was not surching for the truth but her intention was to destroy a political oponent. She serves a politcal agenda that is not conservatve and Jordan naturally opposes to it.
Ben McCall (1 day ago)
...and then they had it off
Props to him in this interview. I would have lost my cool. She's firing off logical fallacies at an alarming rate. She would have dragged me down to her level which would have made me just as reprehensible as her. Her way of arguing is absolutely disgusting but oh so common on TV simply because it's effective. Another strategy I often see is when they ask a bunch of questions that would take longer to answer than the time you're given. It's basically a setup from the start.
Chris Farmer (1 day ago)
Next video in the series should be a dismantling all of Peterson's pseudo arguments and flawed reasoning.
shoutsatpigeons24 (1 day ago)
A few people are discussing the "gotcha" comment. Peterson himself addressed this on a podcast I was watching and he did say he regretted saying it and he wished he'd have handled that bit differently. But we all live and learn, even Peterson.
Samantha Peters (1 day ago)
When I'm being interviewed for a job.
leozar69 (1 day ago)
Thanks for the help.
Mini (1 day ago)
this video was amazing, well done man. im terrible at social debates and any kind of arguments and i always feel like i lost in the end. i wish i could improve
Beth WV (1 day ago)
This video was awesome thank you!!❤️☑️
Mara R (1 day ago)
Nice vídeo to see discussion strategies, but apart from that, where did this guy come from, a cave?? He is a moron with serious misogyny issues, what a troglodyte 🤦🏼‍♀️
N (1 day ago)
SUB +1 FUCKIN ACE VIDEO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BRYLANT5700 (2 days ago)
I am woman and I am in his audience and I am sure I am not the only one so this Cathy should go to laundry and learn how to clean her brain if she has one. I wonder if she know what it is the difference between laundry and kitchen???? By doing what she is doing she is an enemy to herself.
Savage Conqueror (2 days ago)
I lost a brain cell trying to understand this video.
Silvio (2 days ago)
Good video, thanks for posting.
Rocky B (2 days ago)
Cathy is doing what the network want her to do and cause a but of controversy for ratings. So the interview would have always gone this way, it's just that the producers in Cathy's ear wouldn't know where to go from there so they cut it short. Had it been an argument, they would have given it more time.
matthew de lannoy (2 days ago)
Jordan peterson sometimes twists his own words. He said that a very old painting with a double helix of snakes in it represented dna even though dna wasn’t discovered yet , in another interview he said that was just a thought ( btw when snakes mate they form a double helix ) it’s very obvious he doesn’t know anything about science and should stick to psychology
Septimus - Prime (3 days ago)
If the right and left stop throwing insults and puns maybe we can consort some peaceful disagreement. As a leftist myself, the right are right that more leftist now are getting violent...but the right however make insults, consent puns, and hateful rhetoric. And this is how the right is clever to win over the left...but it can at times be the other way around...and this is why I stopped watching the left, right, independent, CNN, FOX News, you name it...they should not get paid one penny and actually do physical work like most conservatives complain about alot of drifters don't wanna work, that's not fully true however. If they make any of those misdeeds they should get penalized with less income to a penny a year or get fired for that matter. They are paid to create rhetorical hate, slander, puns, insults, etc. more than they say any truth to just get their money. Some people on the left feel they should get more freedom than they already have and for once kinda, I agree with conservatives. Money doesn't grow on trees. But both sides must ask however where is your money going....why are things getting much worse in our current generation, it's no one in the middle/lower class of the sort. Not just the left, not just the right...I now think you all know where I am going with this...but sadly at this point I must be discrete.
Tonka Goldman (3 days ago)
If women were truly paid less to do the same thing why don't companies just exclusively hire women?
Veiled Heat (3 days ago)
She literally cannot simply conduct an interview, she has to straw man his every point, be adversarial instead of merely informative, she has to make her own points with no substantiation whatsoever while calling everything he says into question. This is what "journalism" has become. All thanks to these types who are NOT journalists in the true sense but are activists parading around as journalists.
Brian Bassett (3 days ago)
Hey, congrats man! You pointed out the obvious numerous times and have repeated what others have said before you for centuries. Woohoo. Yawn.
Piotr Dabrowski (3 days ago)
Dude, love this video. I actually really enjoy watching Jordan Peterson interviews and your point at the very end about how he should have addressed her "emotional concerns" is on point. Lots of the videos I see of arguments or disagreements lack that. I feel like Jordan in particular is brilliant, but he never closes that gap, and I personally believe it's because he doesn't want to spell it out so simply that "hey, we both agree". Highly intellectuals tend to do this all the time and I can't understand why. With just one or two more sentences, he could have possibly shown her that she agrees with him more than not.
Sean O. (3 days ago)
There are many people who simply won't listen at all. They talk over you and then it becomes a game of putting up with their antics. It's exhausting. Peterson showed this lady so much grace.
Sree Krishna (3 days ago)
Jordan swallowed her, but she didn't know :D
Ernesto Torelli (3 days ago)
It's thanks to this video that I came in contact with Jordan Peterson, so I owe a lot to it.
Joe Ninety (3 days ago)
She, is a manipulative, lefty feminazi.
Joe Ninety (3 days ago)
I watched that interview, live and SHE was an ABSOLUTE DISGRACE. But hey, it's channel4. The leftism and degeneracy, is strong and well proven.
Daniel Medley (3 days ago)
Wow. Just knowing a few of these will allow you to DOMINATE just about anyone in an argument.
Ershad Tantry (4 days ago)
Cathy Newmann is very good at her job!!
McRom3 (4 days ago)
com'on man everytime he's about to face palm, you interfear
Filipe Dias (4 days ago)
Jakob (4 days ago)
A nice video, but now all my recommended videos will be "Jordan Peterson OWNES Snowflake" blah blah.
Ruturaj Draws (4 days ago)
I think unless your a 5 year old. You would already know everything in this video
MrSpartanspud (4 days ago)
I love trapping people when I'm talking to them. It's like making someone punch themself but with words, which is infinitely more satisfying.
wedas67 (4 days ago)
Peterson is dump anyway
Michael Kovalenko (5 days ago)
Love Jordan Peterson. I enjoy listening to him speak. With all the junk on the internet, it is rare to come across something meaningful and useful; I'm glad I did.
Mikhael Mangindaan (5 days ago)
Kathy cleary studied her research so she could carefuly planned her attack at him. She is simply a female-icon-wannabe-journalist. She knew this would become a rating booster. What a toxic person with low self esteem and daddy issues. I bet she loves Trump.
lol trol (5 days ago)
The master of manipulation
M K (5 days ago)
Man, no wonder he has a lot of fans.
Bobi Davidkov (6 days ago)
Nooooo, you are teaching the plebs to debate. I can no longer abuse their lack of skill and get out of sticky situations. Feelsbadman
Christine Donley (6 days ago)
Can we just talk about all of these tactics that Cathy Newman rolled out in expert fashion? EXPERT level. You think she didn't know that this "interview" was full of bullshit disinfo tactics masquerading as journalism? Pretty sure she flashed a couple of sixes too. Disgusting.
Graham D (6 days ago)
I wish I had Jordan's Intellect, Integrity and composure.
sarikatimmi (6 days ago)
peterson is a boss. intellectually he trumps most whilst being so calm and humble
nirna1986 (6 days ago)
Just saw half of the video and subscribed. Brilliant content!
Otto Bruner (6 days ago)
Jordan destroyed that leftist intellectualy .
Magnetic Cartridge (7 days ago)
If I wanted to get the audience on my side rather than actually persuade the other person, would using these bully tactics be a better solution?
Unknown Soul (7 days ago)
Good video
Jelle D van Rinsum (7 days ago)
I think he earned that "gotcha" though. She was being extremely unpleasant and disingenuous in that interview.
Sol Cutter (7 days ago)
that guys a ninja
zocked* (7 days ago)
ramen noodles*
Minecraft Rules (8 days ago)
Jordan Peterson is a really smart man.
My god... some people.... this is borderline crazy making.
Theories (8 days ago)
Is this not all just common sense? Every example you've just shown seems like something that almost any would know is some sort of passive agressive dismissal of your character/arguments rather a comparison and critique of your character/arguments. so for example if i say: "So your'e saying all men are violent?" and "So is it correct to say that your argument is that all men are violent?" and asked you to pick the one where you feel the asker most likely 'cares about your opinion'. Most people would know to pick the 2nd. Even if its only gut instinct, they still know. The biggest problem i find, with these kind of interviewers, is when they do the 'smash technique' as you call it, but rather than listing all of them in one go, they say one, wait for you to just start your answer, then quickly say the next point, making sure to talk loudly over you so you can't get a word in, and repeat 4-5 times. I've seen people like peirs morgan, and jeremy paxman do this, and its the biggest admission that you don't actually want an answer to your question.
David Smith (8 days ago)
2100 dislikes? This is a informative/learning video. What about this content and purpose of this video is there to dislike? Or is it more likely you are disliking this video because you dont like the person in it, or his political stances. Which has nothing to do what this video's purpose is.
Grzegorz Durda (8 days ago)
Peterson does this organically and fluently. You're just an observer seeking validation by assigning yourself an expert on what he does and how he does it.
the best (8 days ago)
the interview out of context is so funny xD
bo bo (8 days ago)
From this video, I realized I always converse like Cathy to my professors, but the difference is I know we are on the same team before I speak, interesting explanation.
venkat veeraraghavan (8 days ago)
You seem to assume that JP wishes to be Cathy's psychiatrist resolving her emotional "concerns". Let us be frank Channel 4 had this coming.
JohnnyRumpassBuns (8 days ago)
"In that first hour after the video went live" *looks at last top comment* 5 months ago *me shedding tears while liking video*
Hiroku Dev (9 days ago)
This was an excellent analysis, good job
Amethyst H. (9 days ago)
Wow its like a battle ...
Bowl Cut (9 days ago)
it's easy to win arguements. step 1: listen step 2: feel your gut step3: say the truth step4: tell ignorant dummies to fk off, bullies dont respect kindness, and you should not respect them to begnin with.
Jake Grist (9 days ago)
This is really good stuff.
Darren Semotiuk (9 days ago)
Always love the Charisma On Command videos, this is the 2nd time I watched this one, still enjoyed it. Like listening to the voice of Dave Foley (of KITH and NewsRadio fame) combined with the wisdom of Scott Adams re. persuasion, framing, linguistics -- but less verbose :) )
Joshua Black (9 days ago)
Paul Vangrossi (9 days ago)
Nice work
Todor Tashev (9 days ago)
Jordan is smart
Blender Dumbass (9 days ago)
I need to watch that video again to learn it deeper... I gonna do it right now
LoveSalsa (9 days ago)
Jordan Petterson totally destroyed that "reporter".
Soviet Doge (9 days ago)
hi im demos (9 days ago)
you sound like the guy who asked jp a question in one of his speeches
Jonathan Wells (9 days ago)
Good job illustrating the straw-man and other tactics used by opponents to make a person embarrass themselves.
vin cass (10 days ago)
Oh my god you are the most boring shrink i have ever come across. Jordon is a c*nt and you are too.
Jack Reid (10 days ago)
Damn that Jordan did well, quite intelligent to understand what's going on
nickmcd8893 (10 days ago)
Thanks for breaking it down man thank you for making this video.👍👊
Michael Sever (10 days ago)
The old " I am woman hear me roar" syndrome.
Malo (10 days ago)
Peterson treats debates like a game of chess
Umer Salman (10 days ago)
you, sir , have earned a sub.
Wow. You put a lot of thoughtful effort into your video. I haven't heard this much energy like it in a very long time. Thank you for the work/time you put into it, and thank you for sharing. I can use what you taught.
Dave Fischer (10 days ago)
Cathy “presupposition” Newman lol
theJukeboxHero40 (10 days ago)
You just earned a big fat sub!
Asher Barnham (10 days ago)
This is a savior for class debates
Omar Abuaita (10 days ago)
The only thing you need to win an argument with Cathy Newman is a functioning brain, and a mouth. Even if you have autism.
Hello there (10 days ago)
9:07 wowwwwww😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀
Muhammad Yusuf (11 days ago)
Watch MEMRI TV for extra SKILL
SplendidTruth (11 days ago)
she says "so you're saying" A LOT. someone should fire her.
Dan Wen (11 days ago)
at·tack əˈtak/Submit verb 1. take aggressive action against (a place or enemy forces) with weapons or armed force, typically in a battle or war. This is the definition of attack I think u need to rethink your word choice, because you use attack way to much in this video and it’s just way out of context.
C.C.C. Creme (11 days ago)
When I get bored I just make up arguments in my head and imagine what I’d say and make multiple situations for _one_ argument
Ceej k (11 days ago)
Women generally aren't smart enough to debate properly. Yes, that is what I'm saying. They use a LOT of strawman arguments, pre-supposition, they almost always get a tad too emotional during the debate and it shows in their tone of voice. I've yet to see a woman who can debate like Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro, etc.
All the more reason to be ashamed when you lose a debate to one...and it happens to majority of men, all the time. Have you ever heard men say how you "can't argue with women"? Actually, not only that you can, but it's usually the easiest challenge out there. The reason why most men can't do it is because they let their own emotions overwhelm them, thus wandering into that irrational mode in which women thrive. If you have thought something through and can manage to remain calm and composed during the debate, you'll pick each and every one of their "arguments" apart...they will be forced to admit defeat, just like the female host in this video. That's why I love it when guys complain to me how you can't argue with a woman. That has never been my experience. Women literally i.e physically run away from debating me after they see the direction in which they're heading.
Furat Alsamaraie (11 days ago)
Isn't that the same Jordan Peterson who's known worldwide as a bitter incel?
Brave Soldi3r (11 days ago)
No. never heard anyone call thisone that, this one is married.
Shuayb X (12 days ago)
Lol this is the lady who said was denied entry into a Mosque when the cameras showed that she went in and then came out for publicity. Strange how she wasn't sacked for lying. She seems very annoying in general, it is just sad to see that people who appear on TV are allowed to lie?
I_beat_my_wife _ (12 days ago)
*slaps roof of car* "so you're saying this bad boy can fit so much spaghetti in it?"

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